Being an adult really isn’t all its cracked up to be. We have to work all day, pay bills, eat our vegetables, exercise and drink enough water… Otherwise all hell breaks loose and you’ll probably break a hip.
When you’re sick you don’t get to just curl up in a ball and not have a million missed calls, messages or emails… If you sleep funny you’re going to be sore for like a week and snow days like aren’t a thing. Being an adult is stressful, overwhelming and i don’t even have a baby yet… but hey, at least we can drink alcohol and eat cookies for breakfast if we want to!
I feel like as adults, especially working women, it’s taboo to talk about needing help. Specifically seeking out therapy or needing medication. There is such a stigma surrounding that makes us seem weak or unstable. But honestly… it’s the contrary. It takes a VERY strong person to ask for help, and an even stronger person to keep coming back and doing the work to better themselves.
Prior to our wedding I felt the need to talk to someone, outside of my immediate circle, it was the best decision I’ve ever made because it helped me work through a lot of issues and become a stronger person. Right before the wedding, I graduated from therapy only feel that I needed it again last fall.
I felt the familiar pull this past fall, the anxiety, the stomach ache, the regular freak-outs and the overall not handling of life very well. So I went to see my PCP, upped one of my meds and made an appointment with my therapist.
It took about 8 sessions for her to finally break me down and gain control of the sessions, to help me figure out who I was and what was truly bothering me… I cried A LOT. But yesterday… I graduated! She told me I was handling life very well, I want to share some of the things that have helped me focus and work thru to become a stronger boss babe, wife, cat mama, daughter, sister & friend.
- Self Development
- Let yourself get vulnerable, in a safe space – give up control and get vulnerable with yourself to find your truth. Its going to be beyond hard, but you’ll be so much stronger for it.
- Say NO… say no to things you don’t want to do. Say no to things that don’t bring you joy. Say no to things that don’t fit into your schedule. Say no to plans, when you feel you just need to be a hermit. Say no to people who don’t lift you up and most importantly say no those who are a drain on your time, energy and happiness.
- Do 1-2 things EVERY week that make you happy. Even if it costs money you don’t have, work a little harder or pick a side hustle to be able to afford it. But do something every week that brings you joy!
- Be present. I know this one probably sounds funny for those who know me because I am admittedly always on my phone, but I’m truly present when it matters, but BRB as I build my empire from my phone, so a babes gotta work!
- Smile every day. No matter how bad the day has been or how hard, find some reason to smile.
- When you’re having big feelings, take a step back, identify them, ID why you’re feeling them and let them go!
These may seem simple. But in the hustle and bustle of daily life, working, cleaning the house, cleaning up cat puke, and the other joys of running a household it can be difficult to remember these things!
So here I am, going on day 4 without crying or having a mental break down and i’m pretty dang proud of that.