Put your legs in the air. Try every other day. Don’t try every other day. Do it this way. Do it that way. Don’t drink. No drinking will help you relax. Test ovulation, don’t test ovulation, relax… Take prenatals don’t take prenatals. Relax, it’ll happen. Don’t stress, don’t worry about it… It can take time. Relax and it’ll happen…
I SWEAR TO ALL that is good in this world, telling a woman who is trying to make another human and wants to be a mother more than anything else, to relax, is probably going to do the COMPLETE opposite… best intentions and all…
When you’re trying to make a human, you apparently are now free game to receive an onslaught of options and unsolicited advice, just by answering the question… “yes we’re trying”.
We’re taught at a young age, if you have unprotected sex you will get pregnant. This makes us 28-35 year olds who are perfectly healthy, feel that there’s something “wrong” with us, if we don’t conceive within a month or 2 of “trying”…
Here’s the thing… I think that its perfectly normal for it to take some time to make a human… Making another human is supposed to be a result of the love between 2 people, but when you are TTC, the stress, the testing, the addition of unsolicited advice, takes a lot of the intimacy and romance out of the concept and makes us feel like there’s something wrong when it doesn’t happen right away!
When you truly break it down… Each month when you “try” you have a 7-10 day window, during that window there are really only 3-5 days where its probable to happen and even on the HIGHEST probability day, its a 30% chance… So when someone says they’ve been “trying” for 7 months…
That means they have only had SEVEN chances to make a human bean and a 30% chance each time…. THATS NOT THAT MUCH.
If someone wants advice I promise it will be sought out. I personally ask advice when and if i want it… But the unsolicited advice is not appreciated and not welcome…
So can we all just agree that if you’re TTC (trying to conceive), newly pregnant, a veteran mama, recovering from a miscarriage or you don’t want kiddos. You ARE a beautiful human and we need to be kind and sensitive to peoples independent journeys. Just because you’re trying or have a new human, DOES NOT make you required to take unsolicited advice!!!!
You, my beautiful friend are a warrior.
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